Sharing our experiences: testimonials and success stories

Experience

 As a young girl, I had a strong desire to work in a helping profession to help people get healed in order to live their life more fully. After the social worker college degree I did not learn more in this area except for a few retraining courses. During my work I learnt a lot from experience, but after some time I felt that I would need something more that could help me do my job better.

Rövid betekintés a 2018-19 es Lelkigondozói alapképzés záróalkalmára...

Some feedback on AHA moments and experiences:

„During the counselling session you don’t have to give any advice, no matter how awesome they seem to be.”

„Since my attendance of the Eleos training I’ve been learning to let go even more. It is very difficult for me to say no and not to put the burden of others onto myself.”

My AHA moments during the Eleos basic counselling course

Based on the notes and readings I realized that God made a very profound and complex work at the creation of man. We learnt a lot about the dimension of body-soul-spirit. It was fantastic to take a glimpse into how man works to get to know psychological schools, methodologies. All learning materials and readings built onto each other so that we could get deeper and deeper into the knowledge. It was very practical, it wasn’t tiring at all. First time in my life I felt that I could understand what I was learning and I could remember it.

One good turn deserves...

While I was standing in a queue in a packed post office or rather I was waiting for my number to be announced, I was watching the people around me. An old lady went to a cubicle unbidden, without a number and showed her postal note of an item impatiently. I felt so sorry for her as many times it takes me, who is half her age, a long time to figure out which button to press to get a number for the right type of business I want to deal with without making others wait, who are impatient because they get there in a hurry. How could an 80-90 year-old person make head or tail of this world?

On the margin of an Eleos further training weekend

After we had finished the basic counselling course in May, 2018 we could hardly believe that it was over! We had experienced a lot of changes in ourselves which required still some settling down. We had a lot of AHA moments, our new way of thinking about us and our helping discussions required some reinforcement. We had a great community, a good team in an awesome atmosphere and we had built relationships with people we got to know and learn to love. So it all cried out for an encore.

Fear can be conquered!

During the counselling course I had received a lot from God.

My self-knowledge had improved. I learnt to recognize, accept and handle my emotions.

Similarly to the Biblical story of Elijah, many times I felt alone, someone who does not have a “man”.

Helping others comes naturally to me. On the other hand when I need someone to help me, most of the times I am left alone. In my relationships so far I have given more than I have received. I would really need to be on the receiving end of the relationship!

Fear has many faces

In my workplace I had to face yet another area of fear. I mothered an intern who had been placed into my care, I taught her many things. This teaching and helping came easy for me. My intern has a self-assertive attitude. Sometimes she does not pick up the phone, nor does she call me back, disappears for longer time period to do her own things without telling me about it. She assigns a holiday in the calendar without having checked it with me. She does not respect me as her superior. On the other hand she does not tell me when she has issues at work.

Looking back into the past and also into the future

 I’ve been interested in the human psyche since I was a child. I always liked books, writings, and questionnaires about this topic.

In my teenage years, I looked for the roots of my way of thinking, the whys of my behaviour, my inner motivations of my own soul. God provided me with an opportunity from time to time to do that again. As a believer, I can only serve others well as a counsellor if I have a healthy and real self-image, and if I know my competencies and am willing to develop them.

A gift

I really enjoyed the one-year counselling course for beginners led by Marti Reimer. Last year two people from our church finished this course. This year five of us were able to attend. I considered whether I should sign up for the course. On the one hand, I asked whether it was necessary for me to attend it. Do I really want to study again, write tests, and do everything involved in a classroom? On the other hand, as good Christians, we need to deal with others instead of ourselves. We grew up. We learned that everything with “self” in it (self-knowledge, deeper understanding of one’s self) is selfish and wrong. Psychology, psycho-therapy and everything with psycho in it is inherently shady so we should keep our distance from them. Based on my experience, with the class of those in our church who are interested, and then the class of those who would like to grow, I was feeling that I would need to learn, move forward to be able to help others better.

A change in the way of thinking during a Counselling course

Written by Mrs. Bónya-Szebegyinszki Janka, in the summer of 2015

Between September 2014 and May 2015 I participated in a course with my husband, joyfully and with great excitement. We had a desire to get to know ourselves, each other and our environment better and deeper. We were hoping to acquire new methods such as the foundations of supporting conversation, which will enhance our communication with God, each other and towards our counselees.

What did the Counselling course led by Ms Márti Reimer give us?

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